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Experiences with online dating tend to be mixed. Some people have excellent experiences with online dating that end in satisfying relationships. Others have stories filled with confusion and frustration. Thus, much like any other way to date, meeting someone online has both benefits and drawbacks.

So, how does someone date online successfully? As it turns out, a simple analysis of the pros and cons of online dating can help out a great deal. Fortunately, the psychological research just happens to have such an analysis.

Finkel and associates (2012) put together an extremely comprehensive review of the literature investigating various aspects of online dating. The goal of their review was to evaluate whether online dating was 1) fundamentally different from face-to-face dating and 2) was superior. Results of their assessment indicated that dating online was indeed different from "traditional" dating in a number of ways. It also provided some superior features and potential problems.

Pros: Online dating provided individuals with access to many more potential partners than they could often find in their daily lives. This is especially true for individuals interested in partners of a particular type, orientation, lifestyle, or in isolated areas.

Cons: The choices of partners can become confusing and overwhelming. Without a clear plan, online daters can get stuck endlessly "shopping" for the perfect partner, rather than actually starting a satisfying relationship.

Pros: Many online dating sites offer various types of personality testing and matching. Such matching can help guide individuals toward dating partners who may be more compatible.

Cons: Matching is a difficult process and testing may not be accurate for everyone. In addition, people may present differently in person or change over time. So, matching may overlook potentially good partners in the process.

In the spirit of our first wedding anniversary, I crafted a list of nine lessons I learned from online dating. At the very end of a six month run on Match.com in 2009, I met Jake.

Online dating was actually less scary than it initially sounded. I found it an ideal way to meet people since I did not work with eligible singles or enjoy going to bars. I visited many coffee shops, over-analyzed a lot of emails, and learned more about myself than I wanted to know. Here are some things I learned the hard way.

1. Safety First, of Course: Don't reveal too much about your location or employer in your profile or initial communications and always meet in a public location. Most importantly, follow your gut reactions. If something feels odd, it probably is. During my six months, I communicated with some strange people and received even stranger emails, but most everyone respected my space and nobody made me feel unsafe.

2. Rules Can Be Helpful, but Leave Room for an Exception: After numerous dates, I came to some conclusions based upon initial judgments of peoples' profiles and communications. I didn't date individuals whose profile pictures featured them taking a photo of themselves in the mirror and learned that a common taste in music does not make up for larger lifestyle differences. So you find that a persistent emailer also shares an appreciation for the same hipster Icelandic band, but everything else about him or her turns you off. It might feel tempting to toss caution to the wind, because Sigur Rós, but don't. Just don't.

One friend cautioned me to never date a "one-picture person," also known as an individual who only displays one photo of themselves on their profile. When I realized I had arranged a date with a one-picture person, I considered bailing. But, had I not left room for one exception, I wouldn't have met my husband.

3. Internet Dating Communication Norms Are Rude. Know When to Move on and When to Use Them to Your Advantage: In the real world, people generally don't leave you hanging. Internet dating is different. At some point, you'll begin exchanging emails with someone and then, all of a sudden, you'll never hear from them again. Unfortunately, this is typical. The other person will often cease to reply instead of informing you he or she is no longer interested. You can pester them for a response, but it's safe to assume their behavior communicates a lack of interest.

4. Be Direct Even If it Feels Counterintuitive: If directness is challenging for you as it is for me, use online dating as an opportunity to practice being assertive and try not to be too hard on yourself when you fail. After all, practice makes progress. Being direct will keep uncomfortable situations from becoming worse and prevent you from wasting your time or anyone else's, even if it may feel rude. For example, ending a date early may feel awkward, but is it more awkward than leading someone on or committing to another awkward date you don't want to attend?



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In the spirit of our first wedding anniversary, I crafted a list of nine lessons I learned from online dating. At the very end of a six month run on Match.com in 2009, I met Jake.

Online dating was actually less scary than it initially sounded. I found it an ideal way to meet people since I did not work with eligible singles or enjoy going to bars. I visited many coffee shops, over-analyzed a lot of emails, and learned more about myself than I wanted to know. Here are some things I learned the hard way.

1. Safety First, of Course: Don't reveal too much about your location or employer in your profile or initial communications and always meet in a public location. Most importantly, follow your gut reactions. If something feels odd, it probably is. During my six months, I communicated with some strange people and received even stranger emails, but most everyone respected my space and nobody made me feel unsafe.

2. Rules Can Be Helpful, but Leave Room for an Exception: After numerous dates, I came to some conclusions based upon initial judgments of peoples' profiles and communications. I didn't date individuals whose profile pictures featured them taking a photo of themselves in the mirror and learned that a common taste in music does not make up for larger lifestyle differences. So you find that a persistent emailer also shares an appreciation for the same hipster Icelandic band, but everything else about him or her turns you off. It might feel tempting to toss caution to the wind, because Sigur Rós, but don't. Just don't.

One friend cautioned me to never date a "one-picture person," also known as an individual who only displays one photo of themselves on their profile. When I realized I had arranged a date with a one-picture person, I considered bailing. But, had I not left room for one exception, I wouldn't have met my husband.

3. Internet Dating Communication Norms Are Rude. Know When to Move on and When to Use Them to Your Advantage: In the real world, people generally don't leave you hanging. Internet dating is different. At some point, you'll begin exchanging emails with someone and then, all of a sudden, you'll never hear from them again. Unfortunately, this is typical. The other person will often cease to reply instead of informing you he or she is no longer interested. You can pester them for a response, but it's safe to assume their behavior communicates a lack of interest.

4. Be Direct Even If it Feels Counterintuitive: If directness is challenging for you as it is for me, use online dating as an opportunity to practice being assertive and try not to be too hard on yourself when you fail. After all, practice makes progress. Being direct will keep uncomfortable situations from becoming worse and prevent you from wasting your time or anyone else's, even if it may feel rude. For example, ending a date early may feel awkward, but is it more awkward than leading someone on or committing to another awkward date you don't want to attend?